This concept of positive thinking, visualisation or imagination became so famous after “The Secret” was published. Many people are fascinated with the idea of positive thinking and imagination. But still, many people have lots of doubts and questions regarding positive thinking or positive psychology. Today I am sharing with you one of the most important topics about “GRATITUDE”.

Gratitude is only one single dimension of positive psychology. As a positive psychologist, I also believe that thinking positively even in the worst situation helps a human mindset to be calm. stay confident, feel less anxious, able to control and understand emotions. Above all one can feel so happy and serene. Like they feel deattached from situations. people and outcomes.

What is Positive Psychology?

Positive psychology is one of the streams of psychology that focuses on mental well-being, happiness, and state of flow. It does not address problems and weaknesses but identifies mental assets like courage, developing a strong positive attitude, building skills, acceptance, resilience, state of flow, happiness, bliss etc. In simple words, positive psychology encourages one to become self-worthy enough so one can get lots of happiness. Rather one is crying for rotten bread.

Positive psychology helps a person to make bread. However, positive psychology is criticised because it neglects the core negative area and emphasises the positive area of life. But it should not be denied that if one only focuses on and targets negative areas all the time there is always a chance to feel like a victim. Let’s discuss GRATITUDE one of the parts of Positive Psychology.

What is Gratitude?

So many people are still unaware of Gratitude and how to practice it. Gratitude is an act of being thankful towards people, things, situations and life. As a human, we have been blessed by so many things. And we never pay anything for those blessings.

We are blessed by our bodies, the air which we breathe, the water which we drink, the food which we eat and so much more. If we count some of the blessings we could not even make it in the factory. Like air or water. We all are blessed for someone’s kind act of innovation so we can live our lives with this zest.

Gratitude is an act of observation to see the positive side rather than just the negative side. Gratitude is something to look at what is there rather than what is lacking. Because our human mind is never satisfied with what we have. It always looks for inadequacy and feels inadequacy. We all tend to cry for problems but never tend to feel good for what we have. This attitude always creates negativity.

We feel our life is unfair. We are always surrounded by problems rather than solutions. We crib for small small things. But never say “Thank you” for big things as mentioned earlier. Gratitude helps to grow you faster as your vision never sticks to inadequacy but simultaneously looks for achievements and blessings as well.  Gratitude does not mean ignoring or overlooking the negative or problematic side of life.

But by practicing Gratitude one can achieve strength and courage which helps to deal with negative emotions. When you feel depressed and anxious everything you observe is all or nothing. There is a rule of overgeneralization applied to all information. This makes a person more vulnerable and feelings of hopelessness and helplessness are absorbed which influence thoughts, emotions and behaviours.

How to practice Gratitude?

As you learn about Gratitude. You may think let me try once. So here I am putting a practical activity which helps you practice gratitude. Gratitude can be practised for any live or dead thing, person or even for any situation. Because Gratitude is a deliberate act of being positive. In this practice, you need a paper or pen. Or you may use your devices also for writing. You also make a special Gratitude journal.

Step 1: List of the things you are grateful for:

As mentioned earlier Gratitude is a deliberate action. Hence you can select any dead things also which make your life very easy and you can get so much of benefit. When you follow the below chart then you will also observe certain unobserved things as well. Mention them as well. You will be more conscious now onwards when you were not there.

I am feeling good and blessed which I never thought earlier.

Step 2: List of the Situations:

In our lives, we only memorise good situations and experiences. But we never become a person by good situations. Always challenging and problematic situations make us something. When we think about them we feel sad, depressed and distressed. Because those situations have given us pain and sorrow. But today take any of the situations which make you vulnerable or sad.

Think opportunities you were getting from that situation. Yes, that situation was a very tough time in your life. But that time only empowered you to become something. Rather you see and correlate every situation with that situation just observe opportunities you got from which have improved you and developed you.

The practice of this particular activity will help you to overcome your regret and curse feelings. Because as much as you build hatred feelings that much you become negative. As it affects your core belief about yourself, others and this world.

But when you find opportunities in unwanted and distressed situations you start building strength and a positive attitude towards negative situations as well. It builds up your confidence and resilience attitude in you. Once you rate yourself you feel your feelings which gives you more optimistic feelings about that situation.

Step 3: List of the People:

Lots of people help us directly or indirectly. Many of them we come across and some of them we never come across. Here, I will take the example of a farmer. He never met me and I never saw him. But he worked hard to sow food for me and this humanity. But because of him, many survived on this mother earth. So when I feel grateful for him I feel grateful for the food I have at the dinner table. I never experienced how and what processing has been done. But I am blessed that I am getting which fills my hunger.

When you feel grateful for those whom you never met you start observing consciously those things which you took up till now as granted. You become more alert and conscious before you make any complaint. Before you feel the frustration of something going wrong in parking or the situation of too much traffic. You get back your resilience and start observing good things. Because after this practice you may look for more blessings rather look for complaints.

Example: I am so grateful that I am getting twenty-four hours of electricity. Which gives me light in the darkness. Thank you to power generated house and the people working there. because of them, I am blessed with Electricity.

When you practice Gratitude you feel good and automatically your senses draw your attention towards those things which empower you. When you feel gratitude your tendency to complain and crib for small rotten things will change. You become more observant and conscious before you take any pessimistic thought. You think twice about which thought you want to think and then you will empower yourself with the optimistic one.

How does Gratitude affect your mental well-being?

As you might start practising while reading this article. You immediately feel good or maybe overwhelmed a little as well. Because then your mind will give all noticeable items which you have never observed. All humans on this earth are suffering from hedonic adaptation.

Hedonic adaptation is where we come to a stable level of happiness despite having positive or negative situations. Due to this we never acknowledge those things which we get at no cost. Like Sunlight, oxygen, the body etc. When you start observing those things your mind will be trained to see things which are more positive and healthy.

Boost your confidence Level:

As you observed yourself in a difficult situation and the way you have handled it. It boosts your confidence level. Because you now understand your ability, strength and capacity to deal with difficult times. You will always prepare yourself for tough times. And without having a single pessimistic thought you become more optimistic. Because here you judge yourself with situations and people. You build confidence because you only dealt with it. You now understand your weaknesses and limitations which you can overcome with it easily.

Build a more resilient Attitude:

Attitude matters most. When you know that you are confident enough and have self-trust that you can solve any problem you develop a resilient attitude. You become flexible with any situation. And try to accommodate yourself with it by accepting it. Then you change it accordingly. Remember when you learn to be grateful you also learn much about acceptance. Rather than becoming adamant you are more flexible to the situation and change gradually according to your expectations.

Less Complaining more blessings (More calm and balance mind):

As you decide one or two days as gratitude days. You are more focused towards blessings. When you list your blessings you also can count positive things rather than negative things. You slowly develop a tendency to see good things and points first rather than negative ones. This attitude gives you a calm and serene mind. You have more control over your anger and frustration. You become within yourself. And never judge others based on their communications and behaviours which help you to be more natural with yourself.

Draw your Limit:

When you can see and feel what gives you happiness and calm mind you love to be there. When you understand your mind you also can understand toxicity. Sometimes we are so absorbed in others that we forget ourselves. And that leads to more toxicity. Because then we start expecting them to behave the way we want. When you understand that your interactions with certain people, places and situations make you more vulnerable you start developing boundaries. You will feel grateful and make your strong way which gives of flow state and happiness.

You learn Forgiveness:

When you are grateful for negative events and count on your opportunities you find yourself in the mode of forgiving others. Because we accept that everyone has their thoughts and insecurities. Every human has a purpose in their life. But some may contradict us. When we feel grateful we become stronger to forgive that person because when you introspect deep down you find opportunities to solve that problem or challenge.

Criticism for Gratitude

Gratitude practice has been criticised also because by ignoring or avoiding negative things one cannot build up a strong empire. This statement in a way is right but with the approach of a narrow point. Because if you want to change your perception, cognition and behaviours which give you long-term happiness and a serene mind. The practice of gratitude is the first step to achieving.

Because it never taught us to overlook negative points but it asks for more acceptance. As when you accept something you are in a position to change. Because you are not resisting with the reality. To be grateful is a practice of becoming a positive person. Which builds a strong character and personality. By accepting and being grateful for difficult times your willpower becomes stronger to reach to expected results.

Hope you get quite a good insight into one of the practices of Positive Psychology. For any questions, you may contact us or book an appointment for a session.

Thank you. Be always Grateful.

Are you thinking of seeing a therapist, counsellor or psychologist? But confused and overwhelmed. You might also face overthinking about self and how vulnerable I am that I need to see a psychologist. Then this is perfect information for you. It is significant for all well-being that they continuously learn about self, others and this world. Many times due to a lack of introspection one can feel lost and unable to find happiness and serenity.

To see a therapist having open communication helps one to deal with emotions very well. One can understand who are they and what they do. Because even if we expect to change the world or results we are unable which cause pain. And always one can feel a trap emotionally. There are a few important things you must know now it is time to see a therapist.

• Continuous overthinking and restlessness in the body
• Restless mind which causes emotional problems
• Some of the Abnormal behaviours which affect your house, school and office
• You have to try hard and deliberately to avoid negative thinking
• Self-blame, Self-stopping thoughts and self-negative talk
• Feel like crying, frustrated and inattentive
• Having lost interests and fun in life
• Fear of meeting someone or avoiding going out
• Continuously following Social media
• Avoid self-care and self-development and many more reasons that it is time to see a therapist.

Therapies typically help in dealing with your emotions and thoughts very well. Because one cannot find solutions to all problems. Many problems of life are such which never solved. But therapies can help you cope with such emotions effectively so that you become a person with a serene mind. Mind is very difficult to win because it has been supported by all five senses and all motor activities. hence the total 11 senses we are dealing with.

When you start taking therapy you can reveal many more truths about yourself, others and this world. Your self-fulfilling prophecy, and preconceived notions to understand your life slowly can change you and empower you to become more happy person.

Emotional fitness is more important than physical fitness. Why? When you are taking therapy you can understand why you procrastinate to take some steps. You feel like you are not adequate but therapy will help you to deal with your fear and anxiety due to which you can able to take steps further. This example may help you to understand your state of mind.

WHY ONLY COUNSELLING OR PERSONAL OR INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING?

It is but obvious why to go for sessions. While one can talk to friends and family. Right answer. But when one feels too stressed and anxious unable to perform his daily activities then counselling is the best option. Sessions are one of the best also because no one judges you. You get unbiased solutions and attention which helps you tackle your current emotional state.

With the help of DBT Dialectal Behaviour Therapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy CBT, one can overcome emotional state and behavioural change. Counselling helps you to understand your thought pattern. Why certain thoughts are assertive for you and not assertive for another one? Secondly, you may also understand your deep fears and emotionality by which most of your lives are driven. Childhood trauma, post-traumatic stress, anxiety about meeting new people, communication problems with subordinates and loved ones, and lack of understanding for self all can be cured through individual counselling.

When you attend personal counselling you can understand your personal life, professional life, financial life and emotional life. Because one single belief causes you a lot as you wear a glass through which you judge yourself and others. Personal counselling mostly focuses only on you and your emotionality. Many more learnings can be possible through personal counselling. You can learn to cope with the situations and resilience with unexpected times or zones. And various behavioural plus emotional learnings follow in personal counselling sessions.

Benefits of Personal Counselling:

• Learn your Emotional and thought pattern
• Learn about your behavioural pattern
• Assess yourself with the right attitude
• Overcome weaknesses
• Learn more about resilience
• Overcome procrastination
• Achieve more focus and attention
• Learn what changes you
• Find your identity and many more…

ASSESS YOURSELF

So many people want some kind of validation that whatever they do is right or wrong. They want to assess themselves. They want to learn about themselves. When you have a quest to learn about your mindset and want to grow in your life then therapies are great options. Introspection is one of the processes which one can do daily without fail. Sometimes you may know that you are right but you are unable to communicate or behave in a certain way because of your fear of people.

Then therapy sessions will help you to overcome what you are and who you need to be. What will give you validation that your self-assessments are perfect? When you are in a session you may get counter-therapy sessions where you can improve. You can change your thoughts which eventually change your feelings and behaviours. A professional person can assess and give authentic validation regarding self-assessment.

THERAPIES ARE SAFE FOR AND GREAT SUPPORT FOR

Suppose you come across some people who feel vulnerable to their emotions. Therapy is the best option for them. Secondly suggest visiting a professional for such help is most important. Therapies are safe for emotionally vulnerable people. Because they have a basic fear of being judged by someone, they have a fear of insecurity and sharing their emotions.

Emotions are difficult to manage sometimes. Especially whenever they are victimised self with the situation. Lots of feelings of imposter and internal disorders turmoil their calm and balanced mind.

While therapies drive them towards betterment. They learn about themselves and others. They learn about coping mechanisms. They also learn to be victors and win the situations with a calm mindset. They can control overthinking and self-stopping thoughts. Therapies are best work when one can get clarity about what they do and why they do.

Clarity leads to peace of mind and balanced thoughts. When someone knows how to accept without resistance then they are in a position to change the scenarios. But if they resist then it is more difficult to change and get expected results as well. There are various other benefits to visit for an Individual Counselling.

• Know yourself through Therapies
• Self Development which improves behavioural problem
• Improve Cognitions
• Change your behavioural pattern
• Resilience which helps to cope with emotions
• Learn new thought pattern
• Understand your environment 
• Improve relations
• Overcome anxiety, anger emotional void feelings and many more

WHEN SHOULD I SEEK TO MEET A PROFESSIONAL?

As such there are no specifications for when to see a professional. But when your day-to-day life is affected due to your behaviour. When you feel you need to take extra steps to overcome your anxious thoughts. When you feel your mood is continuously changing. When you feel ups and downs due to various external factors. And when everything is perfect you feel restless and overthink about your actions and communications.

When you feel some of the flashbacks continuously haunting you you need to distract yourself deliberately. When you use too much social media or heavy usage of screen time. In the case of doing some compulsion activities, you need to soothe your anxious feelings. All are the major reasons that you need to seek some professional help. 

I HAVE TRIED TO SEE THERAPY BUT IT DID NOT SHOW RESULTS.

Could you let me know what I should do?

You might have tried therapy earlier but it did not work. As per my experience with people nowadays people look for quick fixes. They feel they get healed without any changes. It may also be possible that you might have selected a therapist who can’t understand the root cause of your problem.

First of all, when you understand your root cause you will be able to understand yourself. It is important to understand your thought pattern and behavioural pattern. Because when you really understand your cognitively you can achieve the best results through therapy. Therapists are typically trained for emotionality. They are also able to see what you are facing and a change of certain thought processes may help you overcome your current state of feelings.

However, there are various therapies for various problems. Based on your diagnoses one can really get help to overcome. Sometimes you may take immediate actions but many times it takes time. But when you wire and rewire your mind with new ways of thinking. You can definitely get benefits from the therapies.

DO YOU KNOW THE BENEFITS OF THERAPY?

As there are various benefits already mentioned above. But there are last but not least a few more benefits I would like to share which give more idea as to why one needs to take therapy.

• You know better about yourself. When you make connections with your thoughts and behaviours you learn new things about yourself. Those emotions make you vulnerable because you are confused about what happened to you. Through sessions, you will be able to correlate.
• Therapies are helpful when you get guidance and recommendations which help you to achieve what you are looking for. Especially when you are capable of achieving your goal but your own thinking pattern makes you vulnerable therapies are the best source.
• Improve your current relationships. If we are not doing well emotionally then the first thing which affects us is our relations with others and ourselves. Therapies help you to build trust again in yourself and others.
• Once you do well mentally of course your physical health also improves. Your immunity improves because you take things more positively rather than negatively. You can understand now which pattern causes you a lot and you can change them with awareness, not by force.

LET’S TAKE ONE STEP FOR YOURSELF

The best gift to self is self-development. Whether you are doing good or average in your life that does not matter until you have a serene mind. Tranquility of emotions is the best way to live a happy life. So what you can do for yourself? Just book a session for self and your loved ones to go some extra mile.

But today I am sharing very important information about Mindfulness. However, this term also has been aligned with Yoga, meditation and other religious aspects. But here it is a scientific discussion of how mindfulness helps one to overcome anxiety, stress, depression, overthinking, OCD(Obsessive Compulsive Disorders), Post Traumatic Disorder(PTSD) etc.

Also, here I am sharing a few techniques as well so you may apply them to just check your mindset and emotional state. So, let’s start a journey.

What is Mindfulness Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?

Here, first understand the terminology of Mindfulness. As you search for the meaning of being mindful you get the definition immediately. Mindfulness is simply being in the present. Neither in the past nor the future. Cognitive means your understanding of anything at any given point in time. Cognition includes a lot of things but here you take your understanding about any information.

Behaviours where we get some information and we analyse it understand it and react on the same. This simple terminology helps you a lot to understand if you are currently facing any issues with your emotionality and mental state. Mindfulness Cognitive Behaviour Therapy has been scientifically proven to overcome distress and other disturbances.

We have heard many spiritual gurus talk in their lectures and explain to be in the present moment. As we all know this also but in reality we can not follow the same. We cannot apply this technique and hence we fall into the trap of the past-future cycle. To have faith we need to understand this concept very well.

How does Mindfulness Cognitive Behaviour Therapy work?

Being mindful means you need to observe yourself differently from your thoughts and feelings. What do you think and feel currently? Just observe it. It is something like you are hungry. As soon as we are hungry we run to eat food. But if you can sit with the mindfulness and see your hunger. If you can see your body’s sensation. If you can feel your emotions and just observe the same. This technique will help you to be aware of your present state and your actions.

Once your behaviours are self-aware. Then you take slow charge of your feelings and thoughts. This is very simple in reading but when you try to apply it you may again fall into the trap of thoughts. Here, it is important to understand self-negative thoughts which stop you. If you are not mindful then you find yourself anxious by thinking future Or distress by thinking about past events.

You lose the current chance to be in the present. When you are putting your thoughts on autopilot mode slowly your behaviours are also on auto mode. You react differently when something happens good or bad. You drive by your outer environment but not inner peace.

How to become mindful?

There are a few important exercises you may follow right now as you are reading this blog. These exercises may not give you result right away but practice makes man perfect. You have to practice it. Daily for a few minutes.

Pay attention to yourself:

It is difficult on busy days to pay attention because we majorly run according to the demands of situations, people and experiences. We forget many times what we think and what we do. Because we are not in alignment. We get distressed because of that. Our internal story and outer environment have big deviations. Now, sit in a relaxing position and feel all the information through your senses. (Visual, Audio, Taste, Smell and Touch). Apply your senses and receive all information. Now pay attention to self what you think and feel.

Treat yourself as a friend:

We are generally very harsh on ourselves. Especially when we have expected from ourselves so much. But if we do not achieve then we become harsh. We start talking negative. We feel a lack of confidence and self-esteem. Self-doubt creates lots of mess up. So treat yourself as your friend. You accept yourself beyond your limitations, weaknesses and achievements. Feel yourself by deep breathing. When you treat yourself gently you automatically treat others the same way.

Focus on Breathing:

Breathings are just not breathable. But it is a tool to let you know that you are only present. You are not your past nor your future. When you feel your inhalation counter with your nostril there is a gap between inhalation and exhalation. You slowly come to the present moment. Your focus empowers you. As our thoughts empower us same way mindfulness empowers you to be into the present.

Meditation:

There are various meditation techniques. Like as walking or sitting meditation. Even mindfulness yoga also helps a lot to be into the present. When you close your eyes you can just feel all your muscles, body moments and pain with relief you are in the present. Hence we feel good after exercise. Our body is a tool that brings us to the higher self.

Is Mindfulness Cognitive Behaviour Therapy effective?

Of course, it is. But we need results fast in this quick-fix-fast world. If you have tried the above exercises for a few minutes you may feel the difference. But without practice, we cannot reap the results. Follow your mindfulness activities daily. I suggest writing in a journal to many people.

When we take a few things in our mind from the situations that happened then we can’t get a real view of the scenarios. Hence we all become judgmental and correlate the past with the present. This leads to future anxiety. But when you follow your present state and give attention to only those which are important to you then you empower yourself. Our focus is everything.

Wherever we give attention and the way we see things we perceive it in the same way. One of the clients has decided after a traumatic event to transform his implicit memory into explicit memory. He has given attention to the best he can do.

Whenever is dreadful memory comes back he always replaces the same with opportunities. He told me that I had changed the channel on my television. After a rigorous practice of 90 days, he felt himself back from the trauma.

As I mentioned earlier Mindfulness is a matter of practice. But once you know how to live in present you never would like to live in the past nor in the future.

Many people are really in need of professional help to deal with day-to-day life. But they are afraid of being caught up by something unknown. For example, one of the clients needed counselling. But he was afraid if he reached out to some professional then how may people react? He has another problem that he does not want to acknowledge or accept his emotional problem.

Rather he has prolonged it them so much. So at last, he found out how he got help from Psychotherapies. One day he told me with gladness that if I had approached you earlier I have achieved the best in my life. These are similar scenarios many people face in their life. However, due to a lack of knowledge and limited resources, they never seek professional help. So, today I am helping you understand how psychotherapy or counselling helps you—the science behind counselling.

What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is the scientific approach where a psychologist builds a relationship with an individual in a way that one can learn to cope with the issues and problems. Psychotherapy is based on a proven scientific approach in which various therapies like Dialectal Behaviour Therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Interpersonal or intrapersonal therapy, and Choice Therapy are many more kinds of various therapies.

An environment of counselling is such that where an individual can talk openly about his views, ideas, feelings and outcomes without fear of being judged. An individual gets a systematic approach to overcome various troubles he is facing to accomplish his daily goals. the ultimate goal of each counselling session is to live a happier, healthier life. With learnings of coping mechanisms. Psychotherapy is a proven scientific approach to dealing with thoughts, feelings and behavioural problems. An individual can change his behavioural and thinking patterns to overcome obstacles.

By the end of the sessions, one can solve the problem and learn as well how to cope with the challenges of life. Psychotherapy is a wide approach and requires systematic knowledge to deal with an individual. People who want to live happier, healthier and self-fulfilled life they learn more about themselves. Successful people, businessmen, professionals, and family persons all would like to approach Psychotherapy as they can deal with their self-stopping thoughts and overcome new thought patterns and behaviour patterns. Change is slow but it is possible.

Am I changing by talking?

As I mentioned about myths for Psychotherapy. Many have an idea that by merely talking am I able to cure myself? How come is it possible? First of all, we all have a very strong idea that to change thoughts or feelings one needs to do lots of hard work. Persistently we think about how is it to change ourselves and overcome any problem.

Because we were taught the idea that easy means has no value or has less importance. But if it is hard then it is more precious. When you enter into counselling sessions, you are affected, overwhelmed and with less understanding about yourself.

But when you leave the session you can choose what you want to think. Is it destructive or creative? Talking with a professional and family and friends is different because one is giving systematic thought patterns while another gives you advice. Only talk can change your perspective. Like you listen to some good music and you feel good afterwards. If music or some video tape can change your perspective then Talk therapy changes you from top to bottom.

How do I decide when to see a Psychologist?

If you are in a dilemma about when can go for Psychotherapy then you may check some of the symptoms. If your thoughts and behaviour patterns are accordingly then you need to visit once to Psychologist for a counselling session.

• Feeling not good and having mood issues with overthinking
• Anxiety and fear of something unknown
• Unwanted thoughts and feelings which make you inactive
• Some abnormal behavioural patterns where you feel you can’t cope with the situations healthily like separation, family problems, business problems, emotional disturbances
• Continuous self-stopping thoughts and behaviours
• Negative outlook for everything and not able to build new hopes and confidence
• Unable to cope with professional and business-related challenges

There may be various other reasons as well. The science of Psychotherapy is deep and proven. A professional has a wide range of experience to deal with such issues.

Psychotherapies include various therapies

• Cognitive Behaviour Therapy: Understand your thinking, modify it with new behavioural patterns change the outcome.
• Dialectal Behavioural Therapy: This is evidence-based Psychotherapy which is also called a part of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.
• Choice Therapy: This is a theory where one can make a choice based on his hierarchical needs.
• Behaviour Therapy: This is part of Cognitive Therapy. Based on the behaviourism of one.
• ACT Therapy: Acceptance Commitment Therapy is clinical therapy when psychological intervention is required through Acceptance and mindfulness.
• Emotionally Focused Therapy: This therapy is an approach working with families and couples.

Psychotherapies are scientifically proven. Hope this information helps you.

Our life is driven by our childhood experiences, faith, and the hope we have for ourselves and this world. Our world is currently demanding and we live in the Information Era. Where you are considered to be intelligent when your emotionality copes with life demands.

While doing adult counselling I have found that our faith, hope, and self-expectations vary a lot when we do something and we think something. In dealing with the Adult counselling I generally asked my clients to write their external outcome and internal story. So if the gap is bigger than more emotional challenges one is facing in his life.

Especially emotional challenges like Depression, OCD, Anxiety, Stress, difficulties in daily work-life balance, relationship or family issues, excessive screen time, sitting in a corner lifestyle, avoiding social gatherings, and many more. When an adult is introspecting on his life while he is in adult counselling he can see easily understand himself.

Many of them are facing problems of having non-clarity, being unable to express themselves properly, being wrongly interpreted and misunderstood by someone, being angry, frustrated, and having always a question why me?

Adult counselling or Adult therapy is one of the best ways to deal with your emotions. It is not considered that only people who are recognized with emotional challenges or mental disturbance can approach counseling or seek a Psychologist’s help. But it is for each person who wants to self-develop, learn good coping mechanisms, self-realization, and make life happier.

The ultimate goal of each human on this earth is to be happy and that is the goal of Adult Counselling. Now, take a look at how Adult counselling or therapy helps you personally.

Age for Adult Counselling

However, there is no age limit for the counselling of an adult. Any person may face challenges in life at any stage or at any age. Because psychologists also studied LIFE SPAN DEVELOPMENT with COGNITIVITY of a human life. They researched Life Span Development is constantly starts from conception to the end of human life. So there is no age as such to consult a psychologist.

Issues covered in Adult Counselling

Challenges are part of the life. You are considered to be successful when you know how to deal with them. Challenges are coming in any form. Maybe you are facing issues in more than one area of your life. And you want to cure yourself by learning much about yourself.

First you need to segment your life. Once you chunk your weak area you will be able to understand what you are facing. I segmented my client’s life into various segments. Which helps both of us to see the real problem. Generally, overgeneralization and ego displacement are common in mental disturbance. You want to address something but consciously you try to solve something else.

Because you do not know what is the actual problem. When you segment your life at least you try to find out what area of improvement I look for in which segment. So, here look at the chart. I prepared customized therapies as per the issues one was facing and we (the client & I) both worked as a team to cope with it.

Choose your segmented life which is currently affected and because of that your days and months are passing unproductive, unclear, and unhappy. Once you choose to work on yourself you realize that the best thing one can do in life is to work on self-development. But it is tough and a little longer. If you patiently follow the practice with the help of a psychologist then progress is tremendous.

Only a Psychologist is a person who can empathetically view your life and not give guidance or suggestions but drive you there to find an actual solution. Working on the old hopes, faith, and self-fulfilling prophecy is not that easy because we all are following our thoughts, actions, and behaviors continuously and getting the same results.

Once you segment only you will be able to understand which part of your life is affected and which has affected the rest of the parts as well. Like we have problems in our life 20% to 25% but we overgeneralize it by 80% to 85%. So here we considered that whole life is problem but actually some segments have some problems.

Adult counselling discovers a lot within you.  What is the real problem that eats you up and you are unable to find meaning in your life? So, some of the common issues I mentioned here for your knowledge.

• Find and cure Depressive, low-mood feelings
• Chronic stress and tension for future
• Grief and trauma from past incidents in life like separation, divorce, business loss, etc.
• Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) which affects daily chores
• Excessive unwanted negative thoughts for self and Anxiety
• Fear of something
• Post Traumatic Stress 
• Marital and Family Issues – Parent-child relationship issues.

How does Adult Counselling work?

While you are reading you feel that how this works. And is it helpful to me? While people are looking for counselling or therapy they feel it may be a kind of learning program or maybe some motivational things may happen. But really Adult counselling is more than that.

It is a very systematic approach one is going through where findings are most important. In many cases, Adults know their problem but they are unable to execute behaviors. In many cases, people really do not know what is an actual problem but they consider on the surface something else, and deep down there are some other problems. So as a psychologist, I drive you to your actual hurdle and we as a team work to hit the target.

• Find your hurdles
• Faith and hopes
• Work on Why
• Rather than questioning “How”, do “What”
• Acceptance and Adaptation and change (AAC)
• New Behaviors rather than older ones
• Resilience and Coping

My goal is to cure with therapy. Why? Because I strongly adopted the period of experience that change comes from within and not from outside. I love to work for adults who seek self-knowledge and self – development so that they can find meaning in their lives. Adult Counselling is one of the best ways to find yourself with the help of professionals. And THERE ARE THREE TYPES OF HUMNAS in this world according to me.

• ONE: WHO ONLY GETS A SENSE OF CURE WHILE THEY ARE IN DIFFICULTIES.
• SECOND: WHO TAKES PRECAUTIONS BEFORE THEY FACE DIFFICULTIES.
• THIRD: WHO SELF-DEVELOPS BECAUSE THEY ARE HUNGRY TO DEAL WITH GOOD AND WORST

Now, it is your choice which type of human you want to become. Choose wisely. Poor choices lead to poor results. Love to cure people with the help of Adult Counselling. You may contact me to book your Appointment today

Before you read further this blog it is important to understand that a psychologist helps you to take a journey within yourself. He encourages you to see in your beliefs, self-fulfilling prophecy, rules and regulations about yourself and this world and everything. A psychologist walks with you in your journey and consciously makes you understand about your actions, thoughts and feelings.

When you change your thoughts with consciousness there is very little chance of relapse. Because then you are aware of what you do, your outside factors affect you less. So, let’s start the journey to see how Mindfulness Meditation Can Benefit Your Mental Wellbeing.

A few questions may pop up in your mind and here are some of the answers to those questions. It may be possible you may have some different questions as well. You are always welcome to ask them and will respond with love.

What is the relation between Mindfulness Meditation and Psychology?

It is important to understand what you think and feel all day long. But to stop chattering mind is not easy. Our Sensory mind desires so much that we expect much from ourselves as well as others. Once you are mindful at least you will be able to understand your thoughts and unnecessary desires. And when your mind tells you a different story about yourself than what you are it is important to take charge.

Especially when people are in depression or are in an anxious state they are more vulnerable towards their thoughts. Their selection of action is to sit ideal in the corner and think. Overthink makes them paralyzed with laziness, too much sleep or lack of sleep, over or undereating, procrastinating and end with the self-guilt of not being productive.

This is a common phenomenon for anyone whenever they face negative chattering thoughts. When you are mindful you involve your mind in action but not outcome. You are completely present at that moment and can increase the feel-good factor. People who suffer from severe mental disturbance also can practice this.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy especially brings your attention towards your thoughts, feelings and actions. While you follow mindfulness meditation then your psychic energy flows in a certain specific direction. Where you feel the state of flow.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapists make you aware of your thoughts.

Cognition means what you perceive about yourself and the world. When you see some Cognitive Behaviour Therapist they educate you and travel you to your own beliefs about yourself. Where you learn about your old thoughts and make sense of them. You identify the meaning of each thought and that leads you to awareness about self. Having a mental disorder is not taboo.

But it is a great chance to know yourself and improve your limitations. If you are mindful of each activity you do. You attached to action but not outcome. You are not predicting things and are procrastinating. If you even follow your mindfulness practice for uninterested work that makes you free from stress and boredom. So why can’t you try and follow to act rather than think?

Psychologist helps you to become Mindful about your thoughts.

Learning balanced thoughts is not easy. Because we have never been taught such things in the Universities. Whenever you are feeling stressed or anxious for those things which are factually not present. But it is present in your mind. You first get distracted. You are facing attention deficit and OCDs are some of the common behaviours as a coping system.

But a Psychologist helps you learn interpersonal and intrapersonal skills. You understand coping mechanisms and ego displacements as well. When you work on your single belief then you can relive your old memories with fresh outcomes. As your vision is more broad. And clearly define your negative and positive thoughts.

Mindfulness meditation means atonement between thoughts and actions.

Of course, here I am not telling you to sit in meditative posture whole the time. Leave all your jobs and do it. But rather you are so much fine-tuning with your thoughts and actions that you are getting results of what you imagine.

You learn through mindfulness your relationship between thoughts and feelings, thoughts and behaviours and thoughts and physical reactions. When you are mindful you are in self-control and external factors do not matter to you. Your inner well-being is more strong and in atonement.

Mindfulness is in each activity.

Mindfulness is not a single activity. Rather it applies to all activities. If you know that you need to meet the deadline and you are worried about the outcome. Then you may distract yourself with mobile. You watch different things and surf for a while. And when you notice you have wasted so much time. Even when you surf as well you do with mindfulness.

Even if you want to distract yourself from worrisome thoughts then also you need to be mindful. This mindfulness is a playful activity. As you do more and practice it more. You learn more about yourself. As you follow mindfulness. You learn there is no vast difference between your thinking and doing.

Now, let me tell you a few important benefits of Mindfulness meditation.

You can achieve the state of Flow

Flow state where you become one with time. Your mind is your time. As your mind finds oneness with time you automatically enter in to state of Flow. Your hours passed by minutes. Especially, people who are suffering from mental disorders achieve more sense of control through mindfulness meditation.

Doubts managed by presence

Before any activity you do be it you do regularly or first time. Your mind is agitated. Because when you are habituated to do certain specific activities you are not attentive. Because you know how to do it. And hence your mind has different thoughts going on and you do some other activities. When you do some new activities your talking mind straight away attaches you to the outcome and you forget about your presence with that action.

You are aware of your actions before you do them

I have come across many of my clients who are not even aware of what they do. If they are depressed then they sit in a corner or watch too much television or mobile. Or many just lie down in bed and just think. But when they initially apply mindfulness then they are aware of what they do next and they set rewards for themselves only for finished tasks.

Deliberately select what you want to think

Before we think any thought we have a sense of feelings. We all are always in a position to deliberately select what to think and feel. Even in inevitable cases also can balance their thoughts. Mindfulness meditation for each activity brings you more awareness of your surface.

It is one of the techniques but it should be learnt and practised. If you are interested in such activities become part of your life. You may also book a session and become more aware of yourself.

How do you think positively when everything is grey? Especially, when you going through some traumatic situations in life. And you feel just merely by thinking positively, really things are working in a positive direction? Of course, your doubt is correct. Merely thinking positively never changes the outcome.

In fact when all is Grey in life then thinking positively is something to explain Red Colour to a Blind Man. And that is the reason I have tried to give you a satisfactory answer. Let’s today you learn something from this piece of content and apply it to see some changes. But before this Do not forget “Change is Always Hard but It Bears Great Fruits”

What is the meaning of positive thinking?

Positive thinking means you deliberately select or choose what you want to feel. If giving you an example when you are facing an issue of Divorce or separation or some financial loss or death of someone to whom you loved most. But you feel yourself with the negative feelings of sadness, unhappiness, anxiety, fear, depression, etc. Because you do not want to accept pain. Because you do not want to feel the pain.

You do not want to experience pain and hence your conscious mind gives you limited information. Limited to past beliefs, memories, and experiences. That leads to a narrow understanding. You deliberately never choose to think differently but you think what you want to think, see the things which you want to see and feel what you do not want to feel. Because of your beliefs, assumptions, rules and regulations about you and your world.

Positive Thought Comes from Positive Feelings and Behaviours

Your mind is alerting you while you feel negative. And your body symptoms are alarming you. You think positively but you feel and behave negatively it never serves your purpose. Rather it creates chaos. Chaos creates messiness in your mind. It sabotages you and makes you believe that you are not self-sufficient.

So a few steps help you to think positively and get positive results.

Find your Beliefs:

It is a new concept for many people to find self-belief. Beliefs are created from self-fulfilling prophecies, experiences and memories. It is not difficult to find what you believe. But once you find what you believe about yourself and above this world. You start recognizing your self-stopping thoughts.

Because we all are driven by our past experience and so you are. As I mentioned earlier we do not want to feel pain we try to avoid it or we try to hit hard. So situation of fight-flight has been created. Once you know your belief you try to see the things apart from your self-fulfilling prophecy, which you have never seen. For example, a student is very good at academics. And everyone from his family praised him for his scores because no other person from his family had achieved what he achieved.

Now slowly parents developed expectations on a student. And a student also started feeling pressure to score well. He will then be anxious about his results. His anxiousness reaches a level where he feels tremendous pressure and judges his parents in all conversations. Even in normal conversation like in giving some good health advice misunderstood by a student and correlated with his scores. Here, he misjudged and correlated all matters with his anxious thoughts about his scores.

May be possible you also face similar issues. So it is important to understand belief. And writing down those beliefs gives you more clarity. It is difficult to change beliefs but one can get professional support.

Choose and be definite about what you want to think:

As I mentioned above, how to think positively when everything is grey? But the choice is yours. Even in bad shape, you can select your most inspired thoughts. You can select to be motivated and slowly the needle moves in the direction of feeling good. You think differently means you want to prove your thoughts you are right and hence you want to find some supporting incidents for the same. When you think positively you look for something which gives relief by selecting positive thoughts. To do so you may choose some activities to make those conscious efforts.

When you get negative thoughts your heart shakes. Or you may feel some other physical symptoms. Switch over to exact opposite thoughts or to think some other thoughts along with new behaviours. After a few minutes when you feel relaxed, you analyse your thought pattern. You feel it was for a moment. If you can handle your predictions and judgements before you act. You actually get results by converting them into actions. So find your belief and before you become judgmental and predict or attached to the outcome just perform.

The same actions never give the same results:

Now you may learn new things from the above details. If you think positively but behave similarly then you get no new results. But rather you frustrated and become unfocused. Tired of the same actions. And you start procrastinating and prolonging things. Remember FEAR AND ANXIETY BRINGS UNPRODUCTIVE MOMENTS. But the new selection of thoughts and behaviours gives some other results. As you have read an example of a student

He misjudged everyone with his anxiety about a higher score or being the best in academics. He chooses to pressure himself. He started blaming himself and pressurized himself more to study. Eventually, he feels inattentive and prolongs his studies. But if he chose to see and perceive things as it is without becoming judgmental. He performs not only well but he studies smartly. If he also counters his anxiety helps him to understand his misjudgment.

To behave differently it is important to counter your beliefs and choose different actions to bear new fruits. If you choose to behave differently. There is always great measurement one can measure the connection between THOUGHTS-BEHAVIOURS, THOUGHTS – FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOURS – FEELINGS.

Deliberately Create What You Want?

You become creative when you understand yourself better. If you select to be happy in the worst condition means you are not victimizing your situation. But rather you want to accept and face the fears. When you deliberately choose what you want to feel you start behaving in the same way. Because your heart tells you that you feel good when you do some activities which increase your feel-good factor. To prove your feel-good factor you can see an opportunity lie in a stressful situation.

That is how you choose to see solution but not a problem. You deliberately create what you want. For example, you have some bad news today or you have a tough day at your work. Of course, you want to tell someone that today your day is tough. You want to report or complain about situations or people. But here you select to relax in your armchair and listen to some music with a great cup of coffee. You dwell in the aroma of coffee and listen to deep lyrics of music. Your needle moves to feel good feelings.

With that, you see a bad day definitely gave some opportunity to find. Because here you have deliberately chosen what you want. Rather than complain you select to relax and leave the matter as it was. You get your energy back and start feeling better. These are very basic self-help. You can always apply when you are mentally disturbed. Even very tough days will teach you to change your thoughts and feelings. And you want them as well.

ACT – Acceptance- Commitment Therapy:

Here, I am not saying you just be positive. But committed to self that you accept what it is as it is. Then you get your power back. As mentioned earlier if a student misjudged his parents for their normal health conversation. He needs to talk freely if he really misunderstands. Before he selects negative self-talk or annoyed with parents by indulging in hot discussion. He has to accept that his own self-expectations put him down.

Rather he is complaining about his parents or prolonging his studies he needs to accept his anxiety. Once you fully accept the feelings you feel you are in power to change it. But when you do not accept it means you resist it and you lose power to change the same. It is foremost important to accept and then commit to yourself about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours all in a row.

Important Tips to Develop Positive Thinking:

• Introspect daily how many complaints you did
• Do you consciously select your thoughts and feelings or it depends on situations?
• Make a list of beliefs about self and others
• Make a list of beliefs others have about you
• Develop Faith in yourself by Journaling and prayers
• Only positive thinking never changes but your attitude changes your feelings
• Become action-oriented not thoughts oriented
• Work with your If-Then
• Practice Self-Confidence

I love to cure your mental health-related issues. Life is precious and you get this for a limited time. Either you waste it by concerning and negative feelings or you choose wisely what you want. Book a session to learn more about yourself. Happy to cure you.

You look for solutions through self-help books, motivational training and seminars. You want to figure out your stress issue and anxiety issues without letting others know. And you afraid also how a psychologist can help through psychotherapies? So, let’s take a look first at Stress and Anxiety. You can always google it and get to know its meaning but let me help you to know more about these two major mental disorders.

How to Manage Stress and Anxiety

First of believe me you are not alone. You are not abnormal that you have some weird feelings. It is ok to feel like that. If you feel something unnatural and uneasy it is time to know more about yourself. So, let’s take a look.

What is stress? And which are the stressors?

Here, I want to draw attention to stress in the physical and mental realm. In the physical realm, we understand stress with heart disease. While with the mental realm, we understand stress primarily with PTSD. People who come across certain traumatic, uncontrolled and unpredictable situations feel stress immediately. The stress hormone cortisol is responsible for stress and an anxious state. People with their perspective see stress differently.

However, people who are depressed and come across negative life situations may feel distressed. They overgeneralize the situation. For example, a friend is cancelling a movie outing due to personal reasons. But the other person thinks that the person does not want to talk anymore and has cancelled the date. But the real reason is different. It all depends on a person how perceives the situation.

If you understand the characteristics of stressors then they are:

1. How severe is the stressor?
2. How chronic it is? or how long it lasts?
3. Its timings
4. How closely does it affect your life?
5. How do you expect the same?
6. How uncontrolled the situation?

If life stressors we consider as job loss, divorce or separation, rejection from a loved one or losing loved one or some financial losses. These are common but most traumatic situations. The coping system of a person can decide how a person feels stress. And how can he come out of the same?

There are some important Psychological tips which help you to overcome your trauma and stress when your life demands you to perform. People after some traumatic and stressful events become resilient. They become more flexible with life and learn to overcome stress by learning new coping mechanisms.

Make a list of Uncertain and unpredictable life Stressors:

Life is coming with its own challenges and problems. We never predict the future so clearly. But we all must be ready for uncertainty and unpredictable life stressors. Daily hassle with your life and your coping skills to deal with it is important to learn. Like daily you encounter tough clients or your demanding job or profession. Or your relationships are not working the way it should be.

Then you need to figure out and make a list of uncertainties you may face in future. We all can daydream good things but we never learn to visualise the obstacles and challenges of life. Here it is not the point to view your life with negative aspects. But with the optimistic and realistic points of view. After many books flooded in market and with the speeches of many motivational speakers it is now common for all to think positively.

But only thinking in a positive direction never helps. You also need to feel the same way and behave in that direction.

Muscle Relaxation Techniques:

Our body is our servant. As soon as you feel stress your fear hormone spurs fast in your body and you get all physical reactions. Your muscles tense and tight. In many conditions, people do even not consciously know that their muscles are tight. In stressful situations or merely in thinking of stress you need to figure out how to relax your muscles.

You can learn many muscle relaxation techniques and get control of your emotions. When they are going wild and make you crazy.

Mediation:

Transcendental Meditation is a key point if you are facing stress issues continuously. If you meditate over your emotions and thoughts which are unreasonable your body responds to you in the most difficult time. Rather than feeling anxiety and mood swings you take control of your emotions and act in a more positive way.

Keep an Eye on Your Emotions:

It is nowadays very tough to be conscious of each thought and emotion. But these are the most effective psychological tips you can follow if you are aware of your emotions and actions. What are your trigger points? What makes you mood less or overthinker? You need to figure it out by just becoming conscious.

In many cases, people feel stressed when they just watch their favourite team lose a game. Your eye on your emotions works as a compass. It gives you an idea of where you are going.

Behavioral Change:

By CBT many people get to know their beliefs, perceptions, rules, regulations and assumptions about themselves and the world. When you seek a psychologist, he or she can draw your attention to your self-fulfilling prophecy. Once you learn to think new and balanced thoughts and through integrative behavioral therapy you start accepting your stressors.

You immediately take charge of your stressful life situations and change with the new behaviours.

If you learned much about stress but still, want to learn more then click on Stress Management

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety means the fearful emotions which bring a person to future danger. Here, this is more panic and diffuse than fear. Anxiety can be defined cognitively as, “I am worried what might happen”, you feel the tension and chronic arousal is a physical reaction while psychologically you feel general avoidance.

More anxiety is prone to obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It majorly lies in future but in the present scenario person feels uncontrolled.

Few Self-Help Psychological Tips to Overcome Anxiety:

Awareness:

Self-awareness is a key point to cure anxiety issues. You need to define your fears and give them a name. Thinking of the worst outcome is more effective than a person comes across mentally with an undesired outcome. For example, a person feels anxious before a job interview. But by thinking about the worst outcome he may take control of his behaviour. It makes a person prepare for the interview. So rather than worried about the outcome a person uses the same energy in preparation.

Face your fear with Action:

You drive first time and you are anxious about whether you hit someone or not. But with this anxiety and seeing the negative mental images one can never take an action in fear of experiencing an undesired outcome. If you attach to your outcome you never face your fear. But rather you are sitting in a corner having all mental images and audio-visual negative imaginations paralysed you. Just do it. It is the slogan of Nike. Once you do it you. You get experienced and more strong to face your fears.

Shift in Thoughts:

Once you know that your mind makes you vulnerable. You are more prone to think negative than positive. Shift your thoughts by reminding yourself what you think. Just by shifting from one thought to another one. Continuously involving yourself in your actions makes you more strong to face your fears.

Work on your Beliefs:

Of course, your old memories, experiences and beliefs make your world. When you are brought up with a certain rigid thinking process your emotions and actions are the same in different situations. Which brings the same outcome. Work on your beliefs which brings new perceptions about yourself and the world.

Become more Intuitive:

Listening to gut feelings is something we call self-talk. If you find yourself stuck in negative self-belief then work on yourself. Affirmations are key points to change the scenarios. Also, feeling gratitude and developing an acceptance for most tough situations will improve your emotional state. Become more intuitive about your life and plan out accordingly.

These are common but very effective psychological tips to help yourself with stress and anxiety. But always seeking help from a psychologist creates more awareness about yourself. If you want to consult for a session you may definitely approach by booking a session online

Science of Therapy

Like excessive anger, major changes in eating order, excessive anxiety, mood swing disorder, inability to concentrate, low energy, avoiding friends and social functions, being confused, change in emotions, change in school or job performance, feeling disconnected, hearing voices, increase sensitivity, isolation, odd and unusual drives, unexplainable health problem, unhappiness, and decreased joy, etc.

All mentioned changes affected day-to-day life and routine, and unable to perform a job then one can consult a professional. 

But before you consult especially for a therapy session you may have many questions in mind. What does a psychologist do? How do they use therapy which helps me in my life? Really, therapies are effective? How therapy can help to overcome my mental health issue? How about the other ways to deal with mental health issues? So, to answer all your questions this is an important article I have written. Before you read further this kindly also check the related article, “Do I have any mental issue?”

Since long this battle is going on that really therapies are effective or not. However, there is a lot of science emerging after the number of research done on human psychology. It has been proved that therapies are effective in many issues like ADHD in children, Depression, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, OCD, post-traumatic stress Disorders, etc.

We perceive lots of information through our five senses. Our childhood, social culture, biological, and genetic all played a role in mental disorders. However, there is a science emerging out there that the connection of the prefrontal to the amygdala plays an important role while facing fear, anxiety, etc.

When therapies are used they work on various parts of the brain. As it affects the functioning of the Amygdala and the prefrontal context. now, let’s understand how it affects. To understand the concept better I chose three therapies and their effect on various mental health issues. In the same way, there are so many therapies that help to overcome mental state.

Behavior Therapy works in ADHD:

ADHD is found common in children nowadays. Parents wondered to consult a professional for that. Behavior Therapy gives the best results when children are hyper and unattentive. In many cases, if a person changes his behavior and adopts a new behavior by learning its importance, it helps in mental health recovery.

If a person knows his Cue and then follows the same routine to get the same amount of reward then routine or behavior can be changed by learning an alternative behavior. That new behavior provides the same amount of reward but with better mental clarity. Which results in the long run to overcome mental health issues.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy in Insomnia:

Learning new behavior and leaving an old one leads to a new thinking pattern. If anyone tries to change thoughts directly then a question of self-doubt arises. But when you are aware of your cognition and the relation between the prefrontal to the amygdala you slowly can improve yourself.

Various therapies help in gaining self-awareness first. When you are self-aware of your thoughts and feelings your behaviors create different outcomes.

Mindfulness Cognitive Behavior Therapy:

Any professional will ask you a few questions. Those questions are backed by Socratic Questioning, Motivational Interviewing, and many other methods.  But they are helpful to draw the attention of your thinking and your belief.

What you believe and what you perceive determines your behaviors. A therapy called Mindfulness and Acceptance Commitment Therapy is useful to understand your way of perceiving information from the world. And what beliefs you have that affect your day-to-day life.

In session when the therapist helps you to find what lies within you and how you can see the same thing differently called the effectiveness of therapies.

It is difficult to give in detail about all therapies’ effects on which mental disorder. But here I would like to narrate with you one of the real examples.

Story:

Avni was unable to cope with her stressful and demanding job. She recently got married and she has to relocate to a new city. However, she is very comfortable with the shifting and familiar with the city but she has observed that she could not deliver her performance. She found that she told her husband that the same job fascinated her earlier and now she feels she should think an another option. Because she is tired and not able to deliver her work on time. She also has complained of a lack of sleep.

She thought it was normal and maybe temporary. but one day she searched about her issue and ran to a psychologist by booking a session. In diagnosis, she found that she has an issue with excessive anxiety. Her therapist told her and made aware her of the new behavior she has slowly developed. She is caught up in her anxiousness for those things which are not actually lying. But she thought of them when she became late from the office when her clients countered her when she dressed up in the morning. Her continuous unaware self-talk is responsible for her emotions. After taking a few months of sessions with the therapist and measuring her improvement she found her cues.

Which are responsible for her anxiety. While she was getting late she thought once again today I am late and then a series of thoughts filled her mind and by the time she left the office she was tired and overwhelmed. He childhood and her belief system are responsible for her current state which is found in her sessions.

Talk Therapy:

I have researched personally by working on the psychology of various people and found that Talk Therapy is very effective. In just one session they will be able to find their stigma. Their restricted areas of thinking. Because our childhood and culture we all raise affected our thinking patterns.

We want to believe rigorously in many of the beliefs we installed. We raised and believed some fundamental beliefs about self and fundamental beliefs about the world. When you understand yourself through various therapies about your self-fulfilling prophecy, rules, regulations, and assumptions then you become clear in for current state of mind.

When you come across some Cues (signs), it affects your fundamental belief system. Because we want to see things that we want to see and do not see the things that we do not want to see. So many people I come across are unable to process their thinking properly because they are stuck in the past.

They have a series of thoughts and want to deal with the present with past experiences only. And they wondered why this had happened again and again to them. New people and incidents bear the same results. Then start the mental fog, confusion, series of thoughts, overthinking and mental disorders.

When you talk to the psychologist you bear the fruits of the past and struggle with the present. The psychologist helps you to make you understand now how you can differ your one mental image from the other one. Same way one experience to another experience.

Self- Awareness:

Therapies are so scientific that they help not only in curing mental disorders but also in self-awareness. In the case of Personality disorder where a person’s relationship is on the stack. Because he has some fundamental beliefs about self. He believes he is always right and others are wrong.

Through therapy, they learn resilience. They learn much about their auto behavior and auto thoughts as well as impulsive behavior as well. If any person is facing mental disorders now after having successful life then therapies worked miracles. They know to deal with their preconceive notions, they understand their thought pattern and feelings. So Therapies are scientifically proven.

After therapy which area of brain has been affected and how they can improve just by behavior. Measure the outcome and improvement. There is a number of research done on therapies that help people to understand themselves in the long run. Overcoming mental health issues is not a one-night game.

As you have installed your belief for a long and many factors affect to change the beliefs. But when you go to a Psychologist can help through various therapies to overcome your trouble. All therapies are backed by its science hence it has proven to be effective. Various other research in the coming days will prove its effectiveness.

I am a specialist in various therapies so that you can get relief and healing from your current state of mind. As you are reading you might wonder when anyone should consult a therapist. This is simple but profound information I have shared in this blog.

Why Should I Go to Therapy

In order to understand WHY is it important to go to therapy. These are the top 5 reasons to go to therapy.

You are not Alone:

First of all, we as humans fall ill many times. Physical ill health is easy to share and accept. But if you talk about the problem with the mindset and emotional state then you are afraid of what will others think or speak about you. And you avoid it for a long time as if it is not important. Or who will see my thoughts and emotions? In order to avoid reality you caught up in the same thought pattern.

And that pattern leads our whole life. Thought patterns and emotional state are both you learned since your childhood. Say, you started speaking and learning a language. Since that time you have had certain beliefs. You perceived information about this world and your existence in this world. Your past memories. thoughts, beliefs about self, and others decide your thought pattern. You worried about the future, survival, meet to an end, family, social, financial, and professional responsibilities. And simple looking pieces of stuff you perceive with the mind and eye of others. When your internal story and outer condition are not meeting.

When your desire to become something and what actually you become creates lots of chaos. And here it starts with the journey for negative thought patterns and feeling low, sad, unhappy, irritated, frustrated, depressed, and so on. You caught up with the same or another mental problems. And you feel ashamed about yourself only. This feeling of self-unworthy leads to so many issues like schizophrenia, distress, anxiety, bipolar disorders, depression, anger, confusion, Hyper Activity, Phobia, OCD, Attention deficit, behavioural issues, etc.

Thoughts create Emotions:

If you think constructive thoughts you become a strong person, but if you choose to destructive thoughts it breaks you first.

You may get an idea from the above quote that our conscious mind is so strong. Our consciousness is logical and reasoning. Before we think any thought it analyses it. And then we think that thought deeply. Nowadays, your consciousness is affected. Because of multitasking, noise, distractions, lots of information, and excessive use of mobile. Your mind is always looking for something new.

As it forgets to focus consciously on a single task. Since morning we assign to do list in a way that we usually do in a hurry to complete tasks at hand. You never even notice why you even rushing behind things and slowly you have lost your consciousness. You have started cultivating auto thought patterns and auto behaviour.

Why do you do certain things you do it only with unconsciousness. Like in the morning you wake up and immediately you take you phone. You see all the updates and everything. But before you take your phone in hand have you ever consciously asked or seen your action. No. This has become your auto behaviour. And this creates lots of trouble in emotions. Why you feel negative, worry, stress, fear, depress, anxiety, impatience etc. you never even know the reason.

I have experienced in therapy sessions that people feel sad or depressed but why they do not know? This is almost same thought pattern for 75% of the people in this world. You just rush for help when you find yourself really stuck.

Behavioral Issue:

Constructive thoughts creates harmony, peace and happiness, Destructive thoughts create dissonance, chaos and sadness.

Those above written words are enough for you to understand that your behavior is a result of your thoughts and feelings. You either underperform or you escape both depend upon your belief and thoughts you think. Any human behaves in a certain way in a certain circumstances.

That behavior becomes good or bad when it creates fruits from that action and communication. If you understand destructive behavior like anger, bullying, any type of obsessive complusion (OCD), crying, avoiding or escaping from responsibilities, lying, etc. then it affects badly in the long run of the life first on the mental state and then the emotional state.

If you understand your behavior and you know that your behavior is not correct even you behave automatically. Because you are not conscious. You just act because your thoughts and emotions are dependent on the outside factors. Factors will define your thoughts, moods, and behaviors.

Negative Thoughts:

Our ancient mind is always worried about survival. Earlier we have fear of animals, diseases, early death, etc. But now modern men have different issues for survival. But thoughts are the same. You always worried since your childhood to be a ranker, then you worried about family and love life, worried about finance and success, and after all worried about ill health, and death.

Every human life starts and ends in this circle. And you are caught up in negative thought pattern. You are worried, stressed, fearful and then have mood issues. You feel like you imprison in an invisible cage. And unable to break the bars. So these thoughts are invisible not physically harm you but it harms your life.

Many people are even not aware about their negative thought pattern. They always complain, worried, irritated, and crying for small things. They expect others to be best but they do not understand their own expectation.

Find Yourself:

Spirituality starts with self-awareness. Now it becomes a trend for people to sit in meditation. But they really do not know why they sit in the meditation. They do because someone told them or they might have seen some celebrity to follow that. There is no meaning just sitting in Padmasana by closing your eyes.

You just drift in your thoughts, images, and audio sounds. Many have a myth that real meditation means having no thought. In fact, this is also one of the thoughts of not having thought in mind. So if you want to understand yourself and purpose of your life then you slowly gradually become conscious.

I tried to cover all most top 5 reasons why should go to therapy. But there are also other many reasons as well to go to therapy. Like..

– Career Counselling

– Anger management

– Parenting

– Post and pre marital status

– Parents – child relationship

– Goal Achievement

– Financial Crisis

– Post traumatic Disorder

– Stress and social anxiety etc.

If you aware that your life needs direction and purpose then therapy is the best way to lead your life. Unless you do not lead your life someone else is leading you. If you find yourself in trouble and you really feel that you need to take a therapy book your session now.

Purposeless people used by purposeful people